Managing Stalking and Harassment Risks for Adult Content Creators
By teh vicious
Fri Mar 14 2025
Most of your subs are probably good boys, but here’s what you can do if they go too far.
If you’re an adult content creator, especially if you work in adult chat services, you’ve probably already encountered some challenging situations with followers or clients. While most of your audience is likely respectful, the intimate nature of this work can sometimes blur boundaries for some individuals.
Let’s talk about how to protect yourself from stalking and harassment while still maintaining your online presence and connection with your audience.
Understanding the Risks
Adult content creators face unique challenges when it comes to stalking and harassment. The personal connection you create with your audience is valuable, but it can sometimes lead to:
- Clients misinterpreting professional interest as personal interest
- Boundary violations from fans who feel entitled to your time and attention
- Unwanted contact across multiple platforms
- Attempts to discover your personal information
As an adult chatter, you’re particularly vulnerable because your work involves direct communication with clients, which can create a false sense of intimacy.
Creating Strong Boundaries
The foundation of your safety strategy is establishing clear boundaries:
- Decide what personal information you’re comfortable sharing (if any)
- Create a professional persona separate from your personal identity
- Be consistent with your boundaries across all platforms
- Communicate boundaries clearly to your audience
It’s much easier to maintain boundaries from the start than to try to rebuild them later.
Digital Security Measures
Protecting your digital footprint is crucial:
- Use a stage name or pseudonym for all work-related activities
- Create separate emails and social media accounts for your work
- Use a VPN when posting content to mask your IP address
- Consider a P.O. box if you receive gifts or mail from fans
- Regularly search your stage name and personal name online to monitor what information is available
Managing Communication Channels
As an adult chatter, communication is your product, but it’s important to control how and when clients can reach you:
- Use platform-specific messaging systems rather than personal contact methods
- Set clear “office hours” and stick to them
- Consider using a dedicated work phone number (Google Voice or similar)
- Don’t feel obligated to respond immediately to every message
Recognizing Warning Signs
Be alert for followers who:
- Repeatedly ignore your stated boundaries
- Try to contact you across multiple platforms
- Claim to know personal details about you
- Express possessiveness or jealousy
- Offer excessive gifts or financial support
- Make threats when their advances are rejected
Trust your instincts. If someone makes you uncomfortable, there’s usually a reason.
Responding to Harassment
If you do experience harassment:
- Collect those receipts! Document everything from screenshots to messages, etc.
- Don’t engage directly with the harasser
- Report the behavior to the platform you’re using
- Block the individual across all platforms
- Consider speaking with law enforcement if physical threats are made
Finding Support
This work can be isolating, but you’re not alone:
- Connect with other adult content creators who understand your experiences
- Join industry-specific forums or groups for advice and support
- Consider working with a mental health professional who is sex-work friendly
Your safety comes first. While most fans and clients are respectful, it only takes one individual to create a dangerous situation. By implementing strong boundaries and security measures from the start, you can significantly reduce your risks while still maintaining the authentic connection that makes your work valuable.
Remember that you have the right to feel safe in your work. Taking steps to protect yourself isn’t paranoid—it’s professional.